Married Leos

Growing up in a hispanic household you would think that they only music we would listen to was Mexican music, wrong. My father loves all sorts of music, so we grew up listening to not only Mexican music but to the oldies but goodies, and country and western music as well. It was pretty weird because there were times he listened to all three types in one night, he would be singing a spanish song then dancing to the oldies then howling to country, how I wish I had a video camera back then, lol

So all of these types of music have stuck in my head for ever. In the County and Western music I grew up with Dolly Parton, Conway Twitty (I had a crush on him) Johnny Cash and Lorretta Lynn just to name a few. As I grew older I was not interested in the newer singers that came along, heck I cannot even name one right now, (I think one of them has the last name of Black) so needless to say I continued to listen to the classic singers. Well the King and I love the Apprentice, we have always watched the Donald fire someone, and my least favorite person on that show is that bitch Armarosa (sp) oh do I go crazy when I see that ugly face on TV. Anyway there is a Country and Western singer on the show right now who is so funny, very smart and has always given his team great ideas for projects. His name is Trace Adkins, he has a cute face, a nice bod but the one thing that turns me off about him is that he is really balding under his cowboy hat. Now I know that should not bother me seeing that the King has close to nothing on top of his head but this singer had long hair as well, so if you dont know who he is, imagine a man with no hair on top of his head with long hair on the back of his head. Anyway last week when we were watching the show I told the king that I was going to go and buy all Trace Adkins CD’s that I could find. I wanted to see just how talented this man is, seeing that he is really good on the apprentice. I went out and bought two for starters. WOW!  This guy can sing. I think there are only two songs that I don’t care for.  So now I think I will go out and buy a CD from the newer singers out there and see if I like their music, I know that Trace has been out there awhile but I was only listening to the ones from the 60’s & 70’s, silly silly me, I guess the country girl is still in me somewhere.

Since last August our foster children, by law must have 2 sibling visits a month with their two of their older siblings that are also in the system. While having 8 children under one roof a month is not so bad most times, it is a pain in the ass at times. What we do love about these sibiling visits is that our foster children leave us for one weekend. What the king and I have done is taken our chilren out for dinner on Friday nights and rent movies (with tons of popcorn) on Saturday nights.  But since December with the weather being below zero instead of taking the kids out in that kind of weather the king and I went out a few times ourselves, a much needed time away from all of our kids. It is so nice to be able to spend a few hours with the king without the crying and screaming and fighting. This past month we did something a little different, something we have been trying to do since last October. We had dinner with adults! The kings cousin and his wife joined us for some adult conversation which was really nice. We hope that his cousins had a good time as well. I really didn’t want the night to end and I cannot wait to do it again. Of course they did tell us that once we get our pool they will be at our house a lot, which I hope is true because they are fun to be around. Not sure what we will do in April but with the weather “trying” to warm up we will probably start taking our kids to dinner again, we do have a good time taking them it feels so good to be our little family again if only for one weekend a month.

Thanks E&L for a nice night out.

Ok Xbox, I was told you wanted my version of our first date so here we go are you ready?

Ok the King and I worked at the same place for many years. I use to think to myself this guy is either gay or he is the shyest man I have ever come across. For about 8 years or so, we would pass each other in the hall and I would say “hey M” and he would say “hi”. Yes that is all he would say. However I loved the way he use to dress for work, very professional. Dressed to the nines, very sharp. As far as I knew he had no girlfriend but back then it didn’t matter seeing that I was married (YUK!)

Well the year that his BFF was getting married was the year I was single again (YES!) and as far as I was concerned I was done with men, forever. I had two small children and all I was focused on was raising them the best way I could. The girls at work would tell me that they wanted to set me up with some guys they knew but I wanted nothing to do with it. I had even dated an ex boyfriend a few times but then I realized why he was “an ex-boyfriend”. So I swore off men. One sweet elderly lady that worked with us told me “when you are not looking is when you will find your prince charming”. Well I wasn’t looking and I could care less if I ever found him. So it was December of 1997 the King sends me an e-mail and it said: “Hey, you consider me a friend, right?” I reply: “yes, why do you ask?”King replies: ” I want to know if you could do me a favor”. Queen: “what kind of favor?” King: “a friend of mine is getting married and I really don’t want to go by myself, will you come with me”? Long pause from the Queen, I was talking to my friend who was sitting next to me at her desk and told her that M wants me to go with him to some wedding, I really don’t know him other than here at work, what should I do? She tells me to e-mail him back and tell him that you will need to think about it. So I did and I am sure that he was not happy to get that response but none the less he was a gentlemen about it. I tried to get out of it a few days later by saying that I had nothing to wear, he said he would buy me whatever outfit I wanted, he also asked me what kind of perfume I liked, what type of flowers. I was getting nervous. I refused to have him “buy” me anything. So I think it was a week later (could have been a little sooner) he asked if I had made a decision, the girls in the office were telling me to go that M was such a nice person and that they know he wouldn’t try to get to second base because he was not like that. So even though I wanted to say no (because I hated men at this time) I said yes. I went out and bought a dress, a very pretty dress as a matter of fact. So now I had the girls teasing me because I was nervous, I am sure not as nervous as the King was, lol.

So yes he picks me up at my girlfriends house, and here is where I will finally admit that yes I used the excuse that my friend needed to use my car, I just didn’t want him to think that since my kids were spending the night with the sitter that he might have a chance at first and second base. THERE I SAID IT!!

LOL. Anyway the ride to the church was a quiet one, I tried to hold a conversation but I would only get one word answers from him so I decided to stay quiet. I remember the church being nice the mass was beautifully done and then as fast as it started it had ended so back out into the cold we go.

We are heading to the reception once again quiet. Dinner time was quiet, and then the woman that the King says wanted him came to sit by us (she was in the wedding party). She drags the King to take pictures and I sit all alone at the table for the longest time, I said to myself “this is bullshit” I am here as his date and he is off GOD knows where. Ok so now we dance a slow song and that was it the reception was over.

Here goes the long drive home, we talked a little and then once again silence, I actually started falling asleep as he drove me back to my friends house. All in all he was a gentlemen that night and that is perhaps the reason we had a second date. Although I don’t know why he even asked for a second date seeing that he told his mother that he was not going to pursue a second date.

The King had the majority of the story correct he just didn’t have much detail. However he did stretch the truth on one thing, he stated that I was hot, that my friend I am not. Jennifer Lopez is hot, Christina Aguilara is hot, Jessica Alba is hot, but little ole’ me, not by a long shot.

So there you have it my friend, my version of our first date. It was a strange date but I truly believe that he was sent to me by GOD, for he knew that I need a Prince Charming in my life and he was right, and I thank GOD for him every day. He truly is my prince charming.

I have been wanting to post this for awhile now, so at the request of our good friend XBox4NappyRash, I am posting the events leading up to and the day of my first date with the Queen.

I could make something up about it being a beautiful sunny day when I saw the most beautiful woman in the world and I fell instantly in love. But, thats not how it went. Not even close. Although she is the most beautiful woman in the world.

As I may or may not have said in some previous post the Queen and I met at work, we worked in different departments and started about the same time. She was a HOT Hispanic woman and I was the pasty white dork working in the computer department ( an obvious match made in heaven ), we never really had long meaningful conversations but we had known each other for about 8 years nonetheless. Her ex-husband ( AKA Asswipe ) actually bought me a drink at one of the office Christmas parties ( thats a whole other novel ).

Nuff of the particulars. A good ( lady ) friend of mine was getting married and I was in need of a date. For once, I actually had taken the balls out of my drawer and asked a young lady to be my date at the event. She was much younger than I was, of course she worked for the same company, this is relevant because for those who know me its the only female contact I would usually make. I even acquired her services as a date for another wedding a couple months later ( I must have put on the extra big balls that morning ).

As time closed in on the big event she told me she had to work that Saturday. Was she telling the truth? I wanna think she was but something tells me she had forgotten she agreed to go and was just being nice and letting me down easy. Now what was I going to do? Where am I going to find another ( single ) woman to go with me? When I went home and took the balls out of my drawer I noticed that they were single use only. Dammit!! I know, I will tell possibly my best friend at the time that I cannot go to her wedding. Guess what, that didn’t go to well. Her reply ” You BETTER be at my wedding “.

Fast forward a couple weeks of sweating. I am sitting in my office, actually it was a storage closet that we converted into my office. It was small but hey I had a door. Sitting in front of my keyboard I sent the Queen an email, exact wording is sketchy, but I have the basics below:

Me: “Hey would you like to do me a favor?”

Queen: “Depends on what it is.”

Me: “Would you to go to a wedding with me?”

Long pause

Queen: “I don’t know. When is it? ”

Me: “December 6th”

Now I am not sure if she actually answered me right away or if I had to wait a few days but she said “Yes”.

The day of our date she had me meet her at her friends house, she said she was loaning her friend the car for the day. I was thinking, she don’t trust me and don’t want me to know where she lives. I asked her about this and she denied it and still does to this day. : ) We had about a 90 minute drive from her house to the church and I would love to tell you that we had some great conversation, but it was more like listening to a cricket concert. I probably said less than 50 words the entire trip.

The reception came and things got MUCH better, we drank and danced all evening. WRONG!!! It was closer to another cricket concert, it was a good thing that we had another woman sitting at our table that we worked with to kinda help break up the silence. I think I got up from the table 2 times, once to dance with the bride, which was pretty awkward because when we went out there to dance noone else came out there. It was like we had gotten married and it was our first dance. The other time I got up was to take pictures with the woman we worked with that was sitting with us. She had the hots for me, all the single women at that company did, I was just to afraid of them to realize it. Well I might be exagerating abit about them ALL wanting me but I did find out later that she did. I never even took the Queen out there to dance, but remember I am a white boy and white boys have zero rhythm so she was better off not being subjected to that embarrasing scene.

I don’t remember anything about the ride home but I am sure it was an encore of the cricket concert we heard on the way there.

So there it is, our first date, pretty exciting stuff, I know. I bet all you ladies would love to have a first date like that. ; ) It truly is amazing that I actually got a second date after that.

With as much fluid as I have in my ears pretty much every song on the radio today could have been nominated for this category. I was thinking about not having an entry this week but at the last hour coming home from my daughters College night I heard this one. So without further adieu, its Too Young to Fall in Love by Motley Crue